Relationships...
No I'm not emo-ing, just wrote this essay of some sort because a friend of mind asked me to. Okay i'm a little rusty at writing essays nowadays.. Thought it was gonna be easy, but yea, i was wrong.. So wrong.. So here it is.. Please forgive me if it makes a boring read.. I know it's bad, but, lazy write a good essay la :p.
Relationships. Interesting topic isn’t it? One between predators and their prey is an intricate and complicated relationship; covering a great area of scientific knowledge, wide and sophisticated enough to blunt scientists’ thoughts, making it one of the world’s most sought after researches. These researches covers everything; the symbiotic relations between organisms, the wide range of defense mechanisms that are utilised by various examples of prey, and the influence between predators and prey concerning evolution and population structure. Very complex it indeed is.
One of the most common relationship between organisms is symbiosis. Shortly put, it is the interaction between organisms forming a long term relationship with each other. Many organisms become dependent on others and they need one another or one needs the other to survive. Sounds simple enough, but it hardly ever is, and most definitely not when the beings in question is us, homo sapiens or modern humans if you like; arguably the most complex organisms known.
Well then, lets indulge (or entomb as some might say, such a mind killer this topic is) ourselves into the details, little by little, starting with the simplest and purest of them all - relationship within a family. Parents with their kids, to be more exact. One parent with each other’s relationship would fall under a very different kind of relationship altogether, one which we’ll look through later.
Within a family, various characters play different roles in each other’s lives. These people are emotionally and physically connected in one way or another, whether they like to admit it or not. While growing up, most kids, more often than not, will aspire to one day become like their parents, as they are looked upon as their heroes, idols that can never do wrong. Perhaps that is wrong to us grown ups, but it is absolutely spot on to kids, with their mildly developed minds and error prone, simplistic way of thinking.
When they grow up and be exposed to the ‘real’ world instead of the one confined to their home and parents’ judgements, that thought disappears almost instantly, or at least partly, and some goes to extreme extents to swear by whatever they believe in to never be anything like their parents are. Sad change, yes, but to me it is a vital one for one to fully grow out of their childish mindset and be an individualistic individual.
It is after, or along this change that real problems occur between parents and their children. There are certain times where parents would want to become more of a ‘player’ in their child’s life than what the child believes is necessary. Naturally parents will have their own dreams of what they hope their kids will grow up to be, and in parallel to that, kids will develop their own dreams too. When the two dreams collide, havoc wrecks the peace in the family, frustrating both sides. It is just so clear to everyone of them who is right or wrong; they just cannot come to an agreement in classifying which in which; with everyone so sure of themselves.
“Stay out of my life, mom/dad! It doesn’t concern you.. Not anymore!”, says the kids. Some of you might nod along, either agreeing to the kid, or to the existence of that dialogue in today’s families. Either way, it is well known that this is not a rare occurrence, more like an epidemic of an uncontrolled disease, spreading among kids everywhere at a rate faster than anyone can ever imagine or hope to delay/stop. There are no specific causes or remedies to this dilemma, it just happens, whether they like it or not. No set rules exist in parenting. ‘If only there were‘, should be on everyone’s wish list.
Parents are the most important thing a kid can have in life. They relate to one another on a level that cannot be achieved through any other relationship with other human beings. It is important to have communication in the relationship because talking brings them closer. Parents, though, need to know when to play an active role in their kid’s life, and when to be more of an observer. If they mix the two up, serious repercussions may occur. Parents can be the best thing in one’s life, but they need to care for the right.
Enough of families then, and on with the really interesting part; the first thing that comes to mind when the word ‘relationship’ is mentioned - love. Between lovers. Love is mentioned everywhere, by everyone. But what is it exactly? Even those lucky enough who has come across true love, known it for a long time can’t explain it in words to make others understand it. They say you have to experience it to even start to understand the full meaning of it. Is it just lust for each other? Or does it involve caring for each other and that alone? Placing him/her high in your priority list? Thinking of him/her all the time for no apparent reason? Picturing his/her face? All of the above? I don’t know. And I don’t know how to know it. Will just waiting for the right person be the answer? Is it that simple? Or that complex?
Whatever it is, it’s too complicated to be explained in words, so I won’t bother even if I do know what’s it about. What I do know about is the dual nature of love and relationships. There is the love and joy, which is what most people sought after, but it is accompanied by the bitterness of a love that was lost and the pain that remains. It is the latter that is the more common effect of love.
Pretty much everyone keeps fond memories of their relationships, no matter how bad the ending was (assuming that it didn’t last here). Never ending desires of a lover looking back on a past relationship and the longing to go back to the happier days of the relationship can‘t be avoided most of the time. Next comes anger about the break-up. It’s almost an established fact that most people would become selfish and assume that the reason for a relationship not working is always the fault of the other person, not their own. Even if he/or she admits of having done something wrong, it would have been told in a way to make it seem trivial, as if in all in all, he/she didn’t do much wrong.
Bad relationships. Is the love felt while the duration of the relationship true love? Or is that love’s evil brother? All the feelings, care, ‘love’ for each other; are all that lies? If we’re unfortunate enough to go through break-ups, should we just move on and never look back? Is it that easy to do so? What effects will it have on our next relationship (should we have another)? You see, when talking about love, a lot of questions appear. More than anyone can answer, or even care enough to. It really is that unknown to most people (if not everyone).
But then again, you should ask yourself, is all that suffering too much to handle? If you think it is, why not just skip all these courting hassle and don’t ever get into relationships in the first place? Again with the questions. Please forgive me. True love is often mistaken for attraction and many people get carried away and forget those feelings they once had for each other. Attraction is full of fun things that can either make or break a beautiful relationship.
The love in ones heart is not always as noticeable as we would like it to be; yet it is always present if someone truly loves another. It is hard not to have such a strong and desirable love for someone you have missed in the past. If that person that you love with all your heart has to leave you, it would be the worst feeling in the entire world because you would know just then that you might not make it without them during the tough times. It is a hard thing to face and a hard thing to defeat.
In my honest opinion, all the suffering in the world would be worth going through to have even a minute of pure happiness loving someone. A little extreme perhaps, but that’s what I really feel. It is that great. The risk of getting hurt, no matter how bad, is worth taking, as the feelings of love and being loved back is truly indescribable.
Relationships are everywhere around you and at all times they are present and needed. Good interactions with people form average lives into fairytales and wishes into realities. People need all types of relationships; they need love to know they have a great person right with them along the whole way, they need someone to care about and support, they need someone to flirt with and to have a strong sexual relationship with, and most importantly they need a friend to behold their secrets and trust, much like confidantes, but in a deeper manner. Relationships help people get through the tough times; they are there to maintain a healthy lifestyles, which is something everyone desires. So should we all look for relationships? Yes please.
Relationships. Interesting topic isn’t it? One between predators and their prey is an intricate and complicated relationship; covering a great area of scientific knowledge, wide and sophisticated enough to blunt scientists’ thoughts, making it one of the world’s most sought after researches. These researches covers everything; the symbiotic relations between organisms, the wide range of defense mechanisms that are utilised by various examples of prey, and the influence between predators and prey concerning evolution and population structure. Very complex it indeed is.
One of the most common relationship between organisms is symbiosis. Shortly put, it is the interaction between organisms forming a long term relationship with each other. Many organisms become dependent on others and they need one another or one needs the other to survive. Sounds simple enough, but it hardly ever is, and most definitely not when the beings in question is us, homo sapiens or modern humans if you like; arguably the most complex organisms known.
Well then, lets indulge (or entomb as some might say, such a mind killer this topic is) ourselves into the details, little by little, starting with the simplest and purest of them all - relationship within a family. Parents with their kids, to be more exact. One parent with each other’s relationship would fall under a very different kind of relationship altogether, one which we’ll look through later.
Within a family, various characters play different roles in each other’s lives. These people are emotionally and physically connected in one way or another, whether they like to admit it or not. While growing up, most kids, more often than not, will aspire to one day become like their parents, as they are looked upon as their heroes, idols that can never do wrong. Perhaps that is wrong to us grown ups, but it is absolutely spot on to kids, with their mildly developed minds and error prone, simplistic way of thinking.
When they grow up and be exposed to the ‘real’ world instead of the one confined to their home and parents’ judgements, that thought disappears almost instantly, or at least partly, and some goes to extreme extents to swear by whatever they believe in to never be anything like their parents are. Sad change, yes, but to me it is a vital one for one to fully grow out of their childish mindset and be an individualistic individual.
It is after, or along this change that real problems occur between parents and their children. There are certain times where parents would want to become more of a ‘player’ in their child’s life than what the child believes is necessary. Naturally parents will have their own dreams of what they hope their kids will grow up to be, and in parallel to that, kids will develop their own dreams too. When the two dreams collide, havoc wrecks the peace in the family, frustrating both sides. It is just so clear to everyone of them who is right or wrong; they just cannot come to an agreement in classifying which in which; with everyone so sure of themselves.
“Stay out of my life, mom/dad! It doesn’t concern you.. Not anymore!”, says the kids. Some of you might nod along, either agreeing to the kid, or to the existence of that dialogue in today’s families. Either way, it is well known that this is not a rare occurrence, more like an epidemic of an uncontrolled disease, spreading among kids everywhere at a rate faster than anyone can ever imagine or hope to delay/stop. There are no specific causes or remedies to this dilemma, it just happens, whether they like it or not. No set rules exist in parenting. ‘If only there were‘, should be on everyone’s wish list.
Parents are the most important thing a kid can have in life. They relate to one another on a level that cannot be achieved through any other relationship with other human beings. It is important to have communication in the relationship because talking brings them closer. Parents, though, need to know when to play an active role in their kid’s life, and when to be more of an observer. If they mix the two up, serious repercussions may occur. Parents can be the best thing in one’s life, but they need to care for the right.
Enough of families then, and on with the really interesting part; the first thing that comes to mind when the word ‘relationship’ is mentioned - love. Between lovers. Love is mentioned everywhere, by everyone. But what is it exactly? Even those lucky enough who has come across true love, known it for a long time can’t explain it in words to make others understand it. They say you have to experience it to even start to understand the full meaning of it. Is it just lust for each other? Or does it involve caring for each other and that alone? Placing him/her high in your priority list? Thinking of him/her all the time for no apparent reason? Picturing his/her face? All of the above? I don’t know. And I don’t know how to know it. Will just waiting for the right person be the answer? Is it that simple? Or that complex?
Whatever it is, it’s too complicated to be explained in words, so I won’t bother even if I do know what’s it about. What I do know about is the dual nature of love and relationships. There is the love and joy, which is what most people sought after, but it is accompanied by the bitterness of a love that was lost and the pain that remains. It is the latter that is the more common effect of love.
Pretty much everyone keeps fond memories of their relationships, no matter how bad the ending was (assuming that it didn’t last here). Never ending desires of a lover looking back on a past relationship and the longing to go back to the happier days of the relationship can‘t be avoided most of the time. Next comes anger about the break-up. It’s almost an established fact that most people would become selfish and assume that the reason for a relationship not working is always the fault of the other person, not their own. Even if he/or she admits of having done something wrong, it would have been told in a way to make it seem trivial, as if in all in all, he/she didn’t do much wrong.
Bad relationships. Is the love felt while the duration of the relationship true love? Or is that love’s evil brother? All the feelings, care, ‘love’ for each other; are all that lies? If we’re unfortunate enough to go through break-ups, should we just move on and never look back? Is it that easy to do so? What effects will it have on our next relationship (should we have another)? You see, when talking about love, a lot of questions appear. More than anyone can answer, or even care enough to. It really is that unknown to most people (if not everyone).
But then again, you should ask yourself, is all that suffering too much to handle? If you think it is, why not just skip all these courting hassle and don’t ever get into relationships in the first place? Again with the questions. Please forgive me. True love is often mistaken for attraction and many people get carried away and forget those feelings they once had for each other. Attraction is full of fun things that can either make or break a beautiful relationship.
The love in ones heart is not always as noticeable as we would like it to be; yet it is always present if someone truly loves another. It is hard not to have such a strong and desirable love for someone you have missed in the past. If that person that you love with all your heart has to leave you, it would be the worst feeling in the entire world because you would know just then that you might not make it without them during the tough times. It is a hard thing to face and a hard thing to defeat.
In my honest opinion, all the suffering in the world would be worth going through to have even a minute of pure happiness loving someone. A little extreme perhaps, but that’s what I really feel. It is that great. The risk of getting hurt, no matter how bad, is worth taking, as the feelings of love and being loved back is truly indescribable.
Relationships are everywhere around you and at all times they are present and needed. Good interactions with people form average lives into fairytales and wishes into realities. People need all types of relationships; they need love to know they have a great person right with them along the whole way, they need someone to care about and support, they need someone to flirt with and to have a strong sexual relationship with, and most importantly they need a friend to behold their secrets and trust, much like confidantes, but in a deeper manner. Relationships help people get through the tough times; they are there to maintain a healthy lifestyles, which is something everyone desires. So should we all look for relationships? Yes please.
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